They say that organizing a wedding is one of the most stressful things you’ll ever do. Take it from us, they’re not wrong! And, it’s not just because throwing a party for a 100 people is difficult (which it is). It’s because your wedding is the first major project that you’ll both take on as a couple. It’s the first thing that will throw up huge issues that will lead to disagreements and arguments. Throwing a wedding is great practice for married life! There are discussions, compromises, and joint decisions. Are you ready?
Set a budget early
Every marriage guidance counselor will tell you that money is the root of most problems. Couples argue about money more than anything else in life. The wedding is no different. Not least, because it’s one of the most expensive things you’ll ever do! You’ll start to see each other’s approach towards money, and you may clash over where to spend the tight budget. It’s so important to sit down early on and set out a strict, and realistic savings plan between you.
Incorporate each other’s dream ideas
It’s important to remember that this day is a dream come true for both of you. Brides sometimes have a tendency to take over and dictate the direction of the wedding. Be sure to sit down and talk about your dream ideas for the big day. There is bound to be some disagreement. But, you can work to include elements of each other’s ideas. After all, that’s what marriage is all about. Incorporating each other’s dreams and plans into your own life.
Talk about the stag and hen nights
One of the biggest sources of argument is the stag and hen nights! It’s usually when the stag returns home drunk with war wounds that the arguments start. So, set a few limits and restrictions before the event. Let each other in on the plans so there are no embarrassing revelations later on. You can even look at ideas together. Click here to see some cool bachelor party ideas, and choose the perfect weekend.
Discuss the guest list
We often hear from couples who squabbled intensely over the guest list! Picking the right people to attend the wedding is tricky, and there are always family politics to navigate. Have a long talk with your partner about where to draw the line when it comes to extended family. Discuss the friends and family you plan to invite. Most importantly, discuss whether any exes will be on the list!
Compromise
If you only take one piece of advice from this article, it’s this: compromise. Marriage is all about compromising, and finding a solution that works for both parties. Keep an open mind about all suggestions, and be prepared to compromise on certain points. Pick your battles, and make this a joint celebration.
The main point here is communication. Keep talking about the plans, and keep an open mind at all times. Follow these tips and you’ll be walking down the aisle of your dream wedding! Congratulations!
